(Our old HOA never removed us from the Facebook group when we moved, and we never left because the drama is entertaining and now we get to watch it from a lovely distance. I don’t keep up with it anymore, so B tells us when something juicy is going on – or if someone is giving away something hilarious. Today it paid off.)
Author: D
“I don’t understand how feminists can support the idea that identifying male violence is contingent on whether or not the perpetrator consents to being identified male. Whether I consent to being identified female or not makes no difference to my experience of female oppression. It’s something done to me, not something I identify into. Males can use wordplay to render their violence unnameable, but females cannot use wordplay to render their oppression unexperienceable.”
-Victoria Smith
Like, the solution to eliminating patriarchy isn’t to pretend it doesn’t exist by allowing men to invade women’s spaces and stake claim to our lived reality.
The solution is to end patriarchy.
The solution is not to house males in women’s prisons and shelters on the basis of ~personal feels~; the solution is to eliminate male violence and the staggering “1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted” statistic. The rape rates, the murder rates, the domestic violence rates, and all the subtle psychological violence that the male sex inflicts upon us via the enforcement of social gender constructs. Eliminate the pressure for women to wear makeup. Eliminate sex trafficking. Eliminate the lack of access to safe birth control and reproductive healthcare. Eliminate misogynistic religions (aka all of them). ALL of these problems are caused and upheld by the male sex class.
My blood boils when a trans activist compares sex segregation (i.e. female safe spaces) to racial segregation. Women’s safe spaces were created to protect them from male oppression and violence. Our safe spaces were made necessary because your sex is full of violent misogynists. Wanna change that? Start fighting the violent misogynists instead of acting just like them.
Our problems AND yours are the result of patriarchy, so maybe start addressing and solving the problems caused by your own sex instead of telling us the problems don’t exist, or they they’re women’s fault. Stop fighting women who won’t suck your dick and start fighting the reasons we need feminism – that is the only action that will earn you a “place” in the women’s movement.
I swear, I have never seen an actual woman hate women as much as the men claiming to be women do. Incredible.
I am so woefully sick of gendershits spewing nonsense mantras like “sexual attraction is based on [some gender bullshit]” – can we please require Internet goons to take a basic linguistics course before opening their mouths?
Sexual ATTRACTION is based on whatever the hell is attractive to someone. Tallness, shortness, red hair, blue eyes, a cute laugh, a warm smile, a kind demeanor, a shared penchant for Xena fan fiction.
Sexual ORIENTATION describes the sex(es) to whom you are sexually attracted: male and/or female. Doing the math in a sexually dimorphic species, one is either homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or asexual.
Attraction to some vague notion of “femininity” isn’t an “orientation.” It’s an attraction, or more accurately, a fetish.
Not synonyms. Not in need of “reexamining” or “unlearning.” Not ever.
The inevitable has happened. I knew it was only a matter of time, but I was hoping to avoid it a little longer.
Working 2.5 miles from the new baseball stadium, I’ve finally been sucked into a ballgame team outing. ?
On behalf of all Tall Women™, can ALL clothing stores please take a page from J.Crew’s book and start making “tall” shirt sizes? I’d rather JC not be my only viable shopping option bc like
My lil’ basil grown in hydroponics. ?
Don’t get attached to anything. It all changes. Life, circumstances, thoughts, goals, people. Nothing is exempt from change, even the things you believe in and cling to most tightly. Stop trying to freeze it in place, just let it fucking go.
I love how “you just haven’t met the right man yet” didn’t work so they resorted to “WELL ACKSHUALLY I’m a woman inside so if you won’t have sex with me you’re a bigoted genital fetishist!”
(Being a bi radfem is fun because I get to be like “no buddy it’s not your dick I have a problem with IT’S YOU.”)
For his bday, B’s mom sent him his newborn onesie and it’s too smol I can’t bear it